I have lost count of the amount of advice received during and post pregnancy.
The diet, the rest, handling the baby.I spent most of the time(which was not required anyway) on comparing post pregnancy times in India and the US.And as the mind always ponders -Wasn't the other side always green?
All said and done, the reality is that the baby is all yours after a while and YOU must handle it..
After a good 6 months of maternity leave, Iam now facing the million dollar question of getting back to work.And here comes a few facts from my understanding of bringing up a child.
Myth#1:It is important for the mother to stay with the child for at least one year
Truth:
Children get to recognise faces very clearly by 6 months of age and by 8 months they get social(or anti social may I say ;-)They would clearly know who the mother is and would not be willing to adjust with a new person.An ideal time to start work would be when the child is 6 months of age, started solids and has formed a feeding schedule of its own.
Myth#2:Children belonging to working mothers are not well attached to the family circle
Truth:
The upbringing of a child is a responsibility of both the parents.Staying away from the child for 8 hours a day will not detach it from the family.However it is important that parents retain a certain amount of energy to come back home and spend quality time with children.
On the other hand, having spent quite sometime in the daycare, children would tend to be more social and open to make new friends.
Myth#3:Caring for a baby Vs Career break
Truth:
Most of the people believe that taking a break to look after the little one will cost them their career.The fact is that career is built over a period of time and a tiny break in between should not affect you as long as your goals are clear and you know what you would want to achieve in life.Don't blame it on the baby.It is your initiative skills that have to be rekindled in order to get back to form.
Myth#4:Leaving the baby with grandparents
Truth:
A very debatable topic.There are various angles to look at it.Instead of a not so good day care and day care expenses involved , the current trend in many working US couples is to leave the baby with grandparents and pick them up when they are toddlers!
You would miss on their growing up years.But as I mentioned earlier it is debatable.My advice is that you should try to bring up your own child, though it is a challenging task, it is nature's way of teaching us how to be good parents.
More laterz when I start working......................Keep you posted.
The diet, the rest, handling the baby.I spent most of the time(which was not required anyway) on comparing post pregnancy times in India and the US.And as the mind always ponders -Wasn't the other side always green?
All said and done, the reality is that the baby is all yours after a while and YOU must handle it..
After a good 6 months of maternity leave, Iam now facing the million dollar question of getting back to work.And here comes a few facts from my understanding of bringing up a child.
Myth#1:It is important for the mother to stay with the child for at least one year
Truth:
Children get to recognise faces very clearly by 6 months of age and by 8 months they get social(or anti social may I say ;-)They would clearly know who the mother is and would not be willing to adjust with a new person.An ideal time to start work would be when the child is 6 months of age, started solids and has formed a feeding schedule of its own.
Myth#2:Children belonging to working mothers are not well attached to the family circle
Truth:
The upbringing of a child is a responsibility of both the parents.Staying away from the child for 8 hours a day will not detach it from the family.However it is important that parents retain a certain amount of energy to come back home and spend quality time with children.
On the other hand, having spent quite sometime in the daycare, children would tend to be more social and open to make new friends.
Myth#3:Caring for a baby Vs Career break
Truth:
Most of the people believe that taking a break to look after the little one will cost them their career.The fact is that career is built over a period of time and a tiny break in between should not affect you as long as your goals are clear and you know what you would want to achieve in life.Don't blame it on the baby.It is your initiative skills that have to be rekindled in order to get back to form.
Myth#4:Leaving the baby with grandparents
Truth:
A very debatable topic.There are various angles to look at it.Instead of a not so good day care and day care expenses involved , the current trend in many working US couples is to leave the baby with grandparents and pick them up when they are toddlers!
You would miss on their growing up years.But as I mentioned earlier it is debatable.My advice is that you should try to bring up your own child, though it is a challenging task, it is nature's way of teaching us how to be good parents.
More laterz when I start working......................Keep you posted.
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